Sunday is GONE day :(

Try - A hummingbird song that I gave lyrics to

Hey

You stay

You Turn into a bag of hay

You TRY

You handle anything that comes your way

And sure we'll Say

You are not only worth today

You'll until your hair turns gray

Anyway

Hope you do right away

Let me start my day

Take care, Bye !

 

An epiphany about the importance of childhood tool to not to fail !

Hello guys have you ever thought about one question "As we grow" why do we fail more often than we succeed? I just had an epiphany about the importance of few simple tools that we used to use in our childhood but not anymore, We almost forgotten to use them today. Just introspect how often do you use a calendar since we graduated or since we stopped going to school, since you lost weight, since you went through a body building program, prepared for exam.

"we fail very often nowadays" because we don't follow a calendar for our goals which was our sword, the magic wand to win as we used to, every day, every moment in our childhood days .. just introspect

Now a days we use the calendar for shopping, visiting friends, going to a theater or traveling.. But we are not using the calendar for saving money, we aren't use the calendar for improving our personality, we  aren't using the calendar for increasing wealth, we aren't use the calendar for achieving goals.. Ask your self what changed why are you not using this simple tool anymore.. You don't have time ? Time didn't change, You changed.. Think about how did you lost your weight or went through a body building program, Think about how did you last time prepare for an exam, Think about how did you learn cycling and I am sure you will remember the importance of Calendar..

Calendar is not about doing more, it's about doing things at certain time of the day for certain period everyday or every week or every month or every year. If you think there is some truth about what I have mentioned today Just create a calendar, plan your task for a week, mark them when done or not done .. just follow for a week and see how things change.. if you think you have done better than last week by following this simple technique .. Then don't stop follow it for the entire month and then follow it when ever you want to achieve something, when ever you want to complete your task for the day or month or Year. Thank you bye take care and talk to you later..

My 1400$ Plan as An Engineer

 Ok I am back home and let's try to talk through the process

This is my plan guys on spending my 1400$ this season. 

I have categorized my plan broadly on 3 parts

1 - Entertainment & Hobby ( 500$ )

500$ I am thinking of a camera .. is it an entertainment ? haha Actually I can say yes because thats how I spend my leisure creating something new and sharing my experience which can help someone in many different ways. Actually I have one Old Sony Camera and my MI Phone, My Mac Webcam where till now I have been recording videos. I wanted to create Videos for my educational website interviewdose.com and youtube .. I wanted to start but at the same time I didn't want to put money on gadgets. So I just started because I think I should not worry about gadgets when my product is a Content/Video .. Creating Content is more important than gadgets .. The same applies now also but Ahh I think its time to do some upgrade as I have gained some skills and expertise...

So what camera I should buy ? actually I am still unable to decide between GoPro and DJI Pocket 2 - Mainly I want one of these camera because they are light weight. They are good for out door activity. optionally I am looking for a good camera which can be used as a webcam with my laptop too. ( Please suggest me what should I choose you can comment below and let me know your opinion ) 

2 - Stock Investment ( Minimalistic or Micro investment 500$ )

    This is my first ever investment in USA after coming from India. I am going to use RobinHood it's very simple app. Infact I dont know if there is any better app I feel its really simple to use.. I got to know that we can even buy fractional share in RobinHood. which I was thinking only possible for Crypto .. Again I have a hobby of doing paper trading instead of real trading because of the fear of loosing :). umm I think with this fractional share investment option its easy to invest even 1$ in a stock and watch that moving up or down and see the performance which I think is a good learning exercise for someone who wants to experience the app and stock investing. 

    I am not an expert either, I used to trade stocks in India and I have almost always lost  doing everything I have heard or learnt things like long term investment, things like follow the trend, follow the news etc etc .. But after a lot of failures I started to realize that this is not my cup of tea.. I can't stand on two boats.. I can't quit my job :) ..Finally I have settled with Mutual funds let someone take the headache of buying and selling on behalf of me and share some profit I am fine with it.

    Ok now coming back to what I am going to buy here.. I think "buying cheap" is a lesson which I never tried so far.. Because stocks are sold cheap only when they crash or dumped and the fear of loosing more didn't allow me to put money at that time. So I know I might be late but I have finalized my 500$ will go to GUSH this season. Gush is an ETF ( Oil & Gas ) This was plumed heavily in March in the Corona Dump since then it is trying to recover.. Currently its trading around 74$ so I can afford buying 7 units .. This is a penny investment I know but to learn something I believe in applying and experiencing too. It's ok this is just a start will do dollar cost averaging or apply CANSLIM method which I learnt from a book that I will talk about later. This is again not a investment recommendation I truly believe in doing your personal research before investing in anything.

3 - Education & Certifications ( 200$ + 100$ + 18$)

I completed my degree and Got a job and then I lost the charm of doing higher studies, leaving my job for money! because after all if the end product is money acquiring just another degree and spending some more money with time didn't make sense to me. If I can earn that much or more being an expert in my field or mastering my skills where I am good at why should I go to school Thats what I thought. I am believer of self education than traditional school based education. If I would like to do some higher studies than I would do in a subject which is my passion like Physics or Something that I am curious to know may be after I retire but not for money now at least. If the education is unable to give you any financial benefit or support then there is no point of acquiring the certificate and wasting time. These thought always hunted me.. 

Then what am I doing today here ? I am going to spend around 200$ in a certification. Yes a skill that I want to put in my resume which can help me adding some weights that's it without going to school In short That's it. I have two options ( more than one choice always create dilemma, there should not be more than 1 choice in life than human will definitely acquire it without swinging ) with me which I am considering..I will tell you later once I settle and acquire one of it. But I have planned 200$ for this certification.

100$ - Buying and Renewing some of my domain e.g feettrack.com and interviewdose.com .. As a software engineer I love building beautiful products even though they fail and writing millions of line of code in my free time.  I have built many websites and android apps so far and I have been paying for domain and hosting fees as-well I spent almost 25$ every month in hosting since 2007.. this is a passion that I love and I think this not only educate me brushing my skills and but generate new ideas in my mind and keep me occupied doing more and contribute to the society too in a certain way. I think its an investment for my personal education I always take it as a learning because at-least it helps me upgrading my skills for current or any future job opportunities. I will be sharing Some of the new ideas in my channel stay tuned.

Buying Book - How to Make Money in Stocks : 18$ This book is the only book in stock investing which I admire a lot cause I learnt a lot and by following some principle like CANSLIM method I made some profits too. I buy books which I keep with me for life. I bought this book around 2009-2010 I remember I asked one of my friend to get it from USA back then I was trading in India. after a lot of loss and failures in stock investing and research I found this book helping I definitely recommend someone if you are into stock investing buy this book and read. 

Then what happened why am I buying again.. I gifted this book to one of my friend .. So I just want to buy it and keep it because I just love this book and refer the techniques again and again.

    Ohh I have some more money left.. Of course Rest will go in Food in a nice restaurant and Buying some ice cream with family .. Thanks guys for listening to me hope my plan helps and let me know if you have some suggestions or questions always happy to listen and share.

Thank you mom | Teaching adaptibility

Yesterday I went to my maternal uncle's place its after around 10 years I was visiting for a day to see my GrandMother and cousins with my son and wife. I met some new faces who implicitly became my new relatives with marriages with my cousins :). It was a very cordial stay. I don't know why I like this place so much from my childhood. It's a beautiful city called Kesinga on the bank of The River Tel and it is a small hillside colony where my relatives live. I always made sure that I visit Lord Shiva temple on the hill top every-time I visit Kesinga. We use to compete among ourselves to walk up the hills, till the temple in one go non stop :) It was always the first thing we use to do when we reach Kesinga and watch the river Tel and whole city spread below the hill. We enjoyed the scorching heat, we dared to walk along the bush and we filled the emptiness on top of the hill. I think curiosity always overcame the fear of falling and pulled us up the hill. Age, Laziness and my back didn't support me this time Lord Shiva I am sure you will forgive me. I met The girl who is my aunt by relation though much younger during our evening gathering and talk. Her two lines story touched me. She has done her college and she is from a small village in my district. I wanted to know more from where she did her college and to my surprise I got to know that it was from Bongamunda a small town which is around 22 kms from her village. I asked if she was staying in hostel or travelled everyday by bus. And it was when I heard she was cycling everyday to college for two years from her home and she had to because she is passed with a little lesser marks than the qualifying marks for a nearby city Sindhekela which is comparatively closer. It blew my mind ! I don't want to talk about the equal opportunity for women, women empowerment, free education for all, connecting India, women quota in colleges etc etc. To me all those are pointless discussion now. I salute the parents who dared to send her to college. I salute the mother who encouraged her to fight her paddling 44 kms to college, to fight her fear to become a stronger, smarter and independent woman. I salute the mom who never taught her to paint her face rather asked her to paddle to college. I salute her mom who may have cried in the dark but never revealed and asked her to fight the odds. Salute and Respect to all such Mothers and Women who dream and teach to be independent and spread fighting odds with selfless love and caring. I request all the parents, mothers to teach their children to fight the odds not by adapting technology but by healthy habits, fight the weakness not by visiting doctors or drinking energy drinks but by playing in sun and moon. Human is an adaptable creature so they survived ice ages. Adaptability is what is the prominent characteristics of a human being. I learnt one thing in my life that earning the harder way is the smarter way to fight the odds and help us being independent. Never flatter rather behave harder being softer from inside to make your child independent and stronger. We may blame of not being so fortunate to get all the amenities of an easier life from them but I can imagine why it is so important to survive in a very competitive and harsh future ahead. Thanks mom and dad to teach us such lessons. #HappyMothersDay #ParentalGoals #ThankYou

Why Quick connect to nearby connect ?

This was the day when we were collecting food money anything which can be donated to the flood victims for Chennai. By evening we got everything in the evening we already had enough money and food supplies to be sent to Chennai.. We wanted a Truck ! It was difficult to find one .. We put it on our whatsapp group but we were mostly software engineers and none of us had a truck owner's or truck driver's phone number . Few we had which were either booked or out of station. At that time I thought of this app where we can just post and search our requirement with nearby people and get help from. Who knows at the same time hundreds of truck may be going just crossing us towards Chennai. Anyway after two hours of wait and search finally we got one Truck and we could send stuff to Chennai.

Back home I started my research experimented on the available technologies, wrote few successful proof of concept app with redis, mongo and vertx-java. Then I came up with this idea of integrating nearby technology with a social network touch to make it very generic. It took me great deal of experiment to come up with a user friendly UX. Finally I am done and it's here as you see. It took me long and by the time lot of easier technology like firebase to build such servers have come up but i sticked to my design and technology as I feel it's more configurable.

Ok let me explain a little bit about this app and it's usage .

When we get any useful information of interest from someone unknown through any medium, We tend to ask WHO are you ? WHAT is this ? WHERE is this ? WHEN is this ? HOW much it cost ? etc etc . And if it's exciting and useful we try to help or visit or avail if it is NEARBY. Take few example say 1) A new Ice Cream shop which has opened just near your office and now that the owner wants to tell this to the nearby people, how would he tell all this in short and sweet manner ? 2) You went to a theater to watch a movie but unfortunately you had to leave it for some urgent work how would you sell ticket ? 3) You want to invite people nearby for free health camp . 4) Do carpool and let others know that you are giving free rides till your office. 5) You are going for a office party and you are in short of few people to avail a corporate discount. How will you find interested people from your office who may like to join and avail the offer ?

Take this another case where and how Quikc can help - NGO/College students want to drive the Nearby community for a weekend cleaning drive. They can create a post and publish it with Quikc with channel say #CleanSunday . Now the same message goes to every device who would be using this app and they can join and help. Also college students can use this app to invite unknown nearby interested students and do get-togethers for any such events.

Another case let's say you need an electrician so you would ask nearby people usually to get his contact and then you call him, but what if he is farther he may not be available in-time.. Instead of wandering you can post the same message with #Quikc with a channel name say #NeedElectrician and someone nearby you may be an electrician or know fixing things who would be of your help.

Quikc solves all these problems in a simple and user friendly way by an android app. Just post a message create a channel and push the message to nearby people and that's it you are done. Try this app from google play share your feedback, suggestions and feel free to write me back if you want to say hello.

Shame on you !

Rahul Can't hear the "Being Serious" words used by Jeet anymore. He replies bluntly..

I know you were serious till you graduated, and after getting the job it's got evaporated. Getting a gold medal in the degree didn't earn you anything but some lakhs of rupees per annum and waiting for a maximum 9% hike at the year end. So you grow only 9 percent annually if you are an honest worker and when you ditch you may get 30% that's what you learnt as a professional.

I know you must be murmuring, You fool - Who doesn't want a smooth, respectable job in India, If i get paid working only an hour a day and bluffing the rest - why not be the "leech".

Some people wear 'Being Human' brand T-Shirt and show their sympathy to the society and some like you become an example for others for scoring the most. but in what ? 

At the same time you didn't even realised the failure of the movie "Manjhi", Ohh what an intelligent you are ! 

I also saw you liked and commented - Salute, Bravo - Mr Anurag's post in Linkedin for successfully completing 12 years without a single vacation in his tenure. What are you trying to teach your followers - Are you encouraging Mr Anurag to continue the spirit till he retires and spend the rest of his life with all the disgust, disrespect from his wife, children for not being a good husband and a father. This is work life balance ! - No personal/family time in last 12 years !

You advise to write the auto pricing logic with analytics before even launching the first version of the product, though you know 'Rome wasn't built in a Day'. You enjoy to be a manager than a leader in your start-up. Pro-claim that you have all the plans, idea, road map but you don't want to sit and code, what an engineer you are, who will follow you, fools ? 

Not an intelligent selfish ? huh .. when you deny your wife for a movie, your kid for an outing, code for your so called startup but work late for an important release in office.

Shame on you Jeet .. No  excuses please..

Colorful Darkness

Rahul looks, Arun stopped him while he was taking off his rocket ! A Rocket just with one pilot which he built and it was him. Arun yelled "Rahul stop" and the loud was so clear that it killed the rocket engines sound and Rahul removed his white Vega helmet without the oxygen mask. He jumped out and heard Arun. Arun said "Where are you going there is more fun out at the highSchool field, Let's play football !".

Rahul for a while sees Lavanya's face disappearing in the new moon. Her green Chudidar was vague in the darkest night. He walked into the small door from where he sees some light and it took a fraction of second to the whiteness that is brought by the snow filled mountains and on top up his head - the rope way carrying the newly married couple on a honey moon trip, the rope car signs Zurich.

On a turn, he finds the train station, the ugliest person ever he saw with the paper band all over his body. He spoke English !, ran towards him and grabbed the hot tea from Rahul and had emptied with a sip. Rahul was amazed ! The intellect started laughing at him and far at the station's chair he started reading the english news paper and tore a column, quickly made a fold and clipped it on his waist.

       He found himself grazing Kangaroos at his yards of couli-flowers and Lavnya spraying the insecticides  with the high-tech tractor and looks at the farthest far at the big desert at the end of the horizon.

There was an asylum in a corner of darkness. The slum of blinds, who neither knows what is light, what is dark ! Someone asked Rahul what are you doing here ? How did he recognize him without having eyes ! Rahul asked himself. Does it pain The blind returned back ! But blind's lips were tight ! There was a roar of happiness, every one was blind with the happiest smile. It started raining ! Rahul got drenched and one of them pulled and asked him to look at moon. He told we feel cold but how does the moon look ?

He started walking counting the steps and he hardly had finished the countable count he could and the colorful lights were clear, polar lights in such a horrible darkness every where. He was easy, it wasn't horrible anymore ! He never even saw such beautiful color of nature in such a darkness. He tries to see the moon but lord Krishna smiled. He looked at the divine tree and Radhika dancing drenched with the ray of colors, Krishna, Krishna. He heard music of streams and birds twitter with Dholki da Dhol.

      He felt difficulty in breathing and He felt heavy on his chest too. He felt suffocated, he tries to scream but there was no sound, he felt restless, He saw his mom just sitting at the sofa and taking to Lavanya with the usual gossip and laugh, he sought help but no one heard ! He felt tremble on his legs and more suffocation and now he screamed mom, mom, but he baffled again. He felt the saliva on his shoulders falling through his mouth. He gathered all his power and tried to unload something which was heavy on his chest. He could see now wide and clear the tiny and colored member of his own was trying his first lap on his chest and slap on his face full of colors with his baby baffles and then he murmured Babba !!

Rahul wasn't not tired with his long voyage on the Colorful Darkness. He giggled with dimples, rubbed more and more to his chicks with the color of yellow, green and red with his son.

One Moment at Chicago Airport

Lavanya Said aap jyada #AAP #AAP Maat honna !
#AAPtard is getting retired anyway #DelhiElections is coming to an end
and take care of your health, hope you will get sometime to call us back.

It was an emotional moment for Rahul too, Mom and Dad after one and a half months of stay with him to help him during a critical surgery were also leaving with her, He would be all alone again after a longtime.

She Continued: #AAP haar jayegi to tumhe bura lagegga, and then your friends would start laughing at you ..
Rahul replied in the same Sahrukh Khan way with wide arms "Laallvi Haar karr jitne wale ko Bajigar kahte hain !"
"Agar aap dil se kuchh bhi chaho to puri kayanat usse aap se milane ki dua karta hai"
Lavanya : I am serious, Don't be filmy here .. Please take care of your health and don't jump start on to a Voyage
Mom and Dad were watching his activity and smiling at him, Rahul didn't care he continued..

Back to 14 years I choose Girl vs IIT.
What : LoveInfatuation
Result: #Failed - bla, bla, bla
Introspection : Immaturity
Lesson: BePractical
#NotMyWords: When you learn to avoid gals, u'll realize what is life

Back to 7 years I choose Entrepreneurship vs M'Tech
What : Co-Founded, Funded a corporation with friends
Result: #Failed - Got cheated, Lost all my investments and profits
Introspection : Wrong Friends, Be Professional while doing business with any one
Lessons: Marketing, Learn Marketing, Hedging, Build Trusty Team
#NotMyWords: I became a good fan of failure.

Back to 4 years I choose Business vs Start-up
What : Funded a business for a cousin, brothers which in fact was more profitable than investing and working for my Start-up
Result: #Failed - Lost some investment but it is Hedged
Introspection : Don't rely on #FamilyMembers unless they invest #TimeAndMoney
Lessons: Accounting and Inventory management
#NotMyWords: Nothing is funny here.

Last year Dec 29th I choose a three hour Surgery/Risk vs a Future of uncertainty/A State of Dilema
What : Doctor asked how are you ? I told "I am ready to sleep in the deathbed"
Result : #UnKnown - life back with a successful surgery with uncertain results :)
Introspection : I am late !. Destiny is the destination.
Lessons: Recognized #TrueFriends & Family, The Sooner is better listen to your heart, #BePositive (Matured mind creates dilemma)
#NotMyWords: Worrying doesn't reduce yesterday's sorrows but it empties today's strength.

Failures are the pillar of success and I am a great fan of failures, you see how many things I learnt from my mistakes, there are many in my life but these are very important which I wanted to emphasize here.

I can't disrespect #ArvindKejriwal, a person who wants to change our future, system and dream a corruption free India. I did my part by following an intellectual person who is logically correct in every way and dare to answer every damn question. An Honest and A Positive person only come back like this and they can't be laughed. World is changing so as the human nature and their deeds and I hate people who says After 20 years I would like to be a Director ! This person taught how can you transform the ideas into reality within an year in social media and in 49 days of its rules. Accept, Active, Ambitious, Authentic, Altruistic, Allure, Agile, Adaptable is what I believe #AamAdmiParty.

I am sure and I have seen Freshers and Youngsters in any company contribute for a successful project not the experienced ones.

I will laugh at the people who still thinks that an inexperienced people can't give a better governance,

They have to think again and ask them selves why Google, Facebook still hires freshers from IIT rather than hiring the most experienced people like them. And if they ask about an experienced Leader, I would again say Steve Jobs and Bill gates were not experienced when they founded their very successful company. So #Trust and #BeWithMe and we will bring #Kranti if we fail again.

#IAlwaysSay "Be prepared for the worst case", So do you and life becomes so easy for you.
#MyWords "You say meow and I will Growl, you say it's a joke I will Roar". PERIOD

Anyway Rahul assured her that he would take care of his health, she with mom and dad should not be worried of him at all. He took the cheaper route back to his apartment via train.

Necessity is the mother of invention (Why I wrote my android app Geo Pulse)

I was in bangalore when I use to wait for Adi everyday at Spice Garden to my office and I had to look for his white creamy car (sometimes he rides bike) out of hundreds of thousands of vehicles running on that busy road. I was not even able to stand quite at the bus stop, I had to keep a constant look at the bust road to see if Adi is approaching me? that’s the time I thought ofZPulse app . I thought of the idea being automatically notified when Adi’s car approaches my location. So that I can read my favorite news in peace and I get auto notified if he is around 200m from me.

Ok who will use it ? sure there is a need for such an app, got lazy for android app, learned GWT applications, got crazy upon web 2.0 google features. I left my half complete android app, and live the life how it was, never thought again for publishing it.

Left Bangalore and came to chicago with my wife and now a father of my cute son !. I had the same problem of getting to know if my wife and Son reached home safe after the clinic ? I have very busy work at my office. lots of meeting, lots of followups, c++ coding. When I go to office I am in a different world. I kind of get so busy that even though I want to know if my wife made safe to the clinic or get back to home with my son, I had to refill the prescriptions while going back to home ! I couldn’t do with the busy schedules that I have.

I thought of ZPulse again ! Why can’t I integrate the location pulses with my half complete app that I wrote in Bangalore. I made it. I didn’t use any server (which needs further investment and maintenance) . I simplified it used SMS for every ones use, which can run even without internet. Offline Google map to just see “where some one is” and google optimized, battery efficient location service to trigger events which can notify someone, do a task or remind of filling my prescriptions.

I made it, no internet required (use wifi/internet for location accuracy only) and published it for public use.

ZPulse now Understands sms messages with content

1) “Where are you” and sends a google map link to me when ever I need. No its not spying, user can always turn it off or control whose message can be answered or allow all the phone contacts under “Incoming Geo-Pulse Message” Settings. 

2) “Notify Me On Entry/Exit/Transit Near 200m Hospital” With a google map link for NMH to set a geofence which can now notify me when they reach the Clinic. with a SMS. 

3) Tasks that can control when I Eneter/exit a location e.g I can activate wifi and swith off bluetooth when I recah office.

4) Add location aware reminders to self or send this to somone e.g My wife can now send reminedsr to me with a sms  ”Remid Me On Exit Near 200m Office” With a google map link for my Office to refill prescription or bring milk. 

5) Integrated a quick Red Button to notify someone about the danger with users location.

6) As ZPulse is nothing but Geo-pulses that we can set or share with our close family members or whom we love or concerned off, I integrated the format of almost all sms based GPS device formats with ZPulse. So I made ZPulse understand sms based GPS formats using which users can Track pets, vehicles for free instead pf paying money for such apps which are sold for from 2$ to 7$ in market they can use this app for free and get realtime locations updates for their car/Vehicles/Pets. 

In fact this app can be very useful for new travelers to USA like my parents. They can use it in their phone and I get auto notifications when they reach Airport, Hotels, Disney or the place those were planned. I can even know their location when I need just by sending a “where are you” message from any mobile !

Hope my story helps understand the usefulness of the app that I wrote ZPulse which is now available in Google play.

ZPulse App link : https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zoogaru.android.zpulse

If someone wants to use with a GPS Device to track their lovely Pet/Car, device can be purchased  from amazon refer: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001FYQO3W/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Resignation Letter

Change is good. Adaptability is agility and that's what the life is. I too believe that the characteristics of a successful life is in the promotion in ones personal life. Quite a long time and I was not able to take the life time decision. Some time back even I had the dilemma and it was really difficult to answer the Love vs Arranged. I always found winners and losers in both of this fields. But God is great ! He sends the message with some hint through some mediators and the Human, I mean me couldn't deny the fact that I decided ! It was easy, real easy for me to take such a life time decision. It was the capital city of chhatisgarh and destiny blessed us both to accept that without further delay we must end the courtship and land our-self to the golden period of betrothal. Impressed with her human resource manager and equally the entrepreneurial com entertainer skills I decided to take the vows of the nuptial knot as early as possible and here the day has arrived. I also hope to be lucky as you my married friends, to see someone waiting for me at my next workplace HOME and being promoted from Single to Married !

Ohh !! Let me not disappoint by closing the cap of my pen without writing few formal lines of resignation letter to my beloved girl friends too :)

Hi All,

            It’s time to say adieu to all my girl friends as you may be aware that I have been inspired to resign from my bachelor ship for my desired partner elsewhere. Yes as you may be aware that I got engaged and of course committed last Feb and the dates of my bachelor ship here ends on coming May and I would like to consider this opportunity to express my gratitude towards all of you who have implicitly become x-gf hear on, with whom I have been closely associated during my bachelor ship and who in some way have inspired and encouraged me directly or indirectly to take this step.

Thanks,
******

The Pizzaaa

Its the Gemini's words still prevails in Rahul's mind. He knew it has to be, after all... his star-stone  is what she always carry with her. She might be thinking that she is wrong somewhere in her that half an hour of conversation but no! Rahul blames himself always for not able to take the next step, The reason is pretty simple for him. She was not able to break the family restrictions and rituals. Its the 'boys first' when the proposal matters. It's him who has to give the go ahead sign to the girl and then the family would try to convince the girl ! why ? Rahul couldn't find the answer when every one says 'Girls First' as always.

The modern but not the generation shifted  family is not able to understand that its really not sufficient time to take a life time decision either for the girl or Rahul in just a half an hour meeting where neither he nor she could even see each other without a hesitation. After all it was there first time meet and its like you met a stranger in a train journey, shared some jokes and memories and see of in the respective destinations. The next time you see them you might not recognize each other! Yes its a tendency of every normal human being. Of course the second time meet creates a better impact and is much stronger.

Too many chickens spoils the broth; that's what happens with the Indian style traditional arranged marriage in many of the 'possible marriage cases'. He heard last time from Vinod that he didn't like the aunt of the brides house who passed a joke on his getup, but bride was good, smart and beautiful..Then? No the ego hurts! Also he heard from Niraj how his uncle had an argument with the brides brother in law for a state political issue and the end result was a broken engagement !. And Ritu case was just unacceptable! the couple were good going, love after the engagement (you can say) ended with a broken marriage just before a week of the marriage date.

Nothing happened this time though there were aunts even brother in laws, there were jokes and also arguments on the national political affairs but the main purpose was not fulfilled. Rahul had to share some personal talks in public with her in front of rest of the family members. Of course its natural to be unnatural during such conversation among all of them. Even the eye contact was as less as possible during their life time question and answers and other casual talks. In the mean while the family kiddo and the jolly dimples also were making jokes. It was surely an entertaining conversation but not sufficient for him.

I was in a hurry to home on that rainy day. It was too late and I didn't have anyway but enter into the spice garden pizza hut. Rahul !! After a long time I met him. I asked him to share a pizza. He agreed and shared his story so far ..

I started ..
Now a days the Indian traditional families look for a Pizza Groom. Most demanding Candidate for an educated daughter. They are more interested on toppings rather than the dough. A handsomely paid job, owner of a metro flat. like the colors of the pizza. If he owns some degrading assets like a 4 wheeler or his parents owns 6-8-10 wheeler, that's even better. A metro flat worth 6 million Rupees ! Is it also a degrading asset?

Rahul said ..
It is just an arrogance if the guy buys it with a house loan in our heavily taxed system without some real good percentage of cash. Ok that's a different topic But how to know the quality of the dough ? They tend to forget what the Pizza Groom really saves at the end of the day spending on all its toppings. But there is no way that with a few phone call or a face to face meeting you can dive into the dough unless you really have it. But its also true that a Pizza Groom can't afford to have all these toppings unless he proved himself in the runway of the career competition.

By the time the Pizza was over and I concluded and saw him off saying..
I recently read What young India wants - few essays and columns by Chetan Bhagat. He would definitely have added some elders this time to his readers database, but apparently lost some countable percentage of younger from his reader database (As you know the masala is missing in this book). I personally never liked his earlier writings! I somehow liked this book. It would have been good to add a topic in his own way, may be in the form of Two States part - II where he would have solutioned a better arrange marriage system which would have helped both the Indian parents and the Young Indians a happier social system. I really feel surprised to hear that 87 percent of our Indian woman are stressed (in this book) for some or other reason and I am sure our Indian social system counts much to it.

Mémoire

Rahul remembers his schooldays when he had to walk or run to the school after having food. She was so fast even in her wooden woven with the smokey room. Food was tasty and the smoking scent use to add a home made flavor on it. ... Ohh so delicious !!! He takes the hot bite. He hardly feels the taste while eating the hot food, it is so hot. He fights back so that she should have served it already before he sits on the floor or leaf mat for the food. He also shouts for the glass full of water. She is never allowed to go anywhere but sits near him until he finishes the food and out for the school. At the same time the younger Lata would also have the same arguments with mom. They both gets their equal share. Rahul runs back from school, roti with patato tomato curry is served as per Rahul's direction. He grabs it quickly and run again for playing the roadside stone games with his friends. He comes back and the usual fight begins with Lata. Mom fixes it quickly. Rahul is convinced and jump on to her lap and mom pulls Lata too and says the brother sister stories and king and queen stories and every one laughs when there is a satire and feel sad when their is a tragedy. 

He left home for studies after his school. He left his school friends he made new friends, but couldn't find better friends than his school yet. He packs all his dirty clothes while going home on college holidays even during his first year of professional life to burden his mom while spending his holiday resting and travelling. He doesn't fight for food anymore when he goes back to home on holidays for his special food. He feels easily satisfied what mom makes. She doesn't have the wooden woven anymore. She uses the gas stove and Rahul misses the smoky flavor still the food is tasty. She doesn't tell stories anymore but kept occupied with Lata with the usual gossip and talk about the TV serials making lunch dinner and breaking breakfast in their new home. He stills love to sleep on moms lap and when she combs his long hairs he says he missed her a lot and mom gives a smile and squeezes his lips, it pains but rahul still feels the sweetness in it. Rahul's mom use to get angry when he gets fish from market without informing her but the fry would come out like the best mom in the world have prepared for her sweetest son. He never mind to care taking the biggest share of the fish fry.

Rahul is married now. Rahul is staying with Lavanya his beautiful wife. She too works as an assistant business analyst. They both earn handsomely. They partied at Le-Meridian this year celebrating their anniversary. They also enjoy movies in multiplex and also have the dinner at the finest restaurant almost every weekend. They have a cook who cooks every morning and night for the lunch and dinner except the weekends. They also bought the best fully automatic washing machine . He feels proud to marry Lavanya a talented CA and when in their office party she has the getup with the red and blue sharee with her stylish handbag from Italy and the audience eyes popped out seeing her beauty he feels a magnified chest inside. He likes to spend sometime alone at their balcony late night remembering his childhood days. He fought last time with his mom for seeing Lata many often after her marriage too but she didn't have anytime to visit his house after the first month of his marriage. No it was an arranged marriage and surprisingly Lavanya the bride was almost 1000 percent selected by mom she was so happy seeing such a beautiful girl and also she was impressed with her caring words on the day of her visit. Rahul never complains when Lavanya fails the right salt proportion in his favorite fish fry. He pulls the salt bottle from the dining table with a smile towards Lavanya and Lavanya says she would do better next time. 

The Proposal

Lilima got the message in her gmail. She was astonished it was from a unknown person seem to be a boy. Subject was interesting though she didn't like the approach. Still looked through the mail content more precisely. It was from a boy name Deepam. She liked the name. But the mail didn't come from gmail-id it was from the facebook copied to gmail. Without wasting much time she logged-in to facebook and started reading the message inbox. Deepam wrote a proposal letter to her. Proposal !! No it was just a Note of interest from Deepam to Lilima for his marrige proposal. Lilima laughed. She read more Deepam wrote that he is interested in her profile and he also found that her interests matching his expectations so he would like to discuss more on this aspect if she is willing to take it further. He also shared his phone number in the mail.

Lilima's inner mind spoke what this guy is writing ! Is this the way he should approach ? He doesn't have any commonsense. Facebook is for fun and making friendship and chat, share photo and updates and comments. Lilima got a pause, she got tempted to give a missed call to the given number. She held her back in excitement called Anju her room partner. Showed the message both started laughing though Anju knew that Lilima was getting ready for her marriage and her parents also started looking for the proposal. Instead of judging more she told Lillima don't you know frauds now a days we get such spam every now and then. Now a days these boys to make friendship they write such emotional story and try to get the phone numbers and email address of girls. Without waiting more Anju called Namita too and shared the same. Namita said you should take it positively if it interests you you should acknowledge otherwise convey you are not interested as simple as that. Why to make it a joke. Anju said No he must learn a lesson Let me call Veeru and she quickly said the matter and passed the number to him. Lillima couldn't decide what to do for a while she started thinking she wouldn't have told to Anju may be Namita was right though she didn't like the approach. Meanwhile Anju's boy friend Veeru was already ready to show his manhood wirelessly.

Deepam was thinking its been two days now and he didn't get any response from Lillima. He was thinking was it right or wrong ?. What he could do. He is from a family who have very less contacts. Their family now realized the benefit of making relationship from far and new places. What he could have done. He tried to find in matrimony but he hardly found any good match in matrimony too. Like himself many people who are looking candidates for marriage are not yet in matrimony. He never found any candidate from his region in the matrimony neither he is connected with them anyway in facebook. If he wants to reach them how could he reach them he didn't have any other way then forming a honest message to show his interest towards Lillima. He shared the phone number too. Whats wrong in that ! He also knew from Sunil his roommate last time, how the girl parents shouted him when he contacted Preety similarly through gmail. What was wrong in it! He doesn't understand why people have so many restrictions in arranged marriage too. Parents are still very closed minded. Parents still thinks if the boy directly contacts girl for a proposal even it is a sin like love marriage though Sunil or Deepam never mind it anyway. They think they have missed the opportunity to be loved so they are suffering now. Some friends even say "Bhukto Abhi sale, Bahut Sadhu bane firte the college mein, khali padhai padhai.. kya ukhad liye padhai karke. You are also working Me too ! U are also earning Me too. but I got my Girl.. Now You are throwing stones into the highly populated mass in india where you need to choose from the lessly populated matrimony match ha ha haaa ... ". I too think what Deepam's friend says is quite justified.

Atleast peoples mind set is changing now a days. Otherwsie when the matrimony sites like Bharatmatrimony.com or Shaadi.com started many people were reluctant to put their photo in these sites. Many people might have started laughing at these site owners initially for sure. That's not a show place to compete with other competetiors, but now its completely a paradigm shift. World is so busy people hardly have time. People who are realizing it they are not hesitating to put them in matrimony and run the race of candidate fight. But anyway Deepam was interested in the profile who seem to be better match in Facebook then matrimony sites.

He is not so handsome he knows and she might have already saw his photo shared in facebook and would be able to get a picture of his personality from the facebook timeline too but he is hopeful that he can be good husband and he also hopes that if Lillima would reject his proposal she would execute it wisely. She wouldnt make him a joke. Ok what will happen if she jokes also, anyway he had taken his own effort at least that he won't repent later. He knows himself, it is quite difficult to stop himself when he wants to do something seriously after all it is his life turning decision. He was lost in his thought and then the mobile rang .. He bewildered, picked the phone.. Other side with a very rough voice started shouting at him "Hey what do you think man this is how you placate a girl ! Leave all your ugly technique. Think thousand times before you next time send any message or any request to any girl. You don't have any work, don't have any sense of maturity to trouble these girls ?. Deepam was shocked he kept quite listening to all other ugly words from the vocals of Veeru, didn't utter a single word in his reply till the time his phone was busy. He never cared He smiled again and got busy again singing one of Enrique's song "Why Not Me ...."

The Drunken Donkies

Rahul was hanging  with Bijay and Beda at his hometown last time. It was after a long time, Rahul had a long vacation time for his family and friends. Bijay is a lawyer and Beda is a field manager for mobile tower installations. They are school days friend. They sometimes shared drinks together when Rahul started his engineering. They spoke about School and College both. Beda was never been a science student but he could make him self somehow connected to mobile network technology.He never sat for the exam even for making him the field manager. He works truly in network. He hardly visits his office. He is a field manager right he always be in fields he always say. He has two kids now. Bijay is still single like Rahul. Vijay was not good in studies in his school but he was hopeful, Rahul too believed he has some potential. He proved himself and now one of the best youngest lawyer in his area.

Rahul was again so busy at home he couldn't give anytime to his childhood boy friends being so much busy in his work for his new adventures at his hometown. But he had to meet everyone, he met Kishore, Chandan, Sushil and others many at a while during his visit to the ATM, Bazar and Shopping for his mom and sis. Vijay and Beda were left and it was an wonderful evening He met Beda at the daily market post where citi's best chhaye walla serves tea. He owns a 1 Crore villa nearby. Taking the best half-tea from the tea maker they were just started the talks and Vijay also joined them. He is a jolly man. And the talk began from school days to college. Soumya to Suma and Vinay to Nilesh every one. Ohh shame they are too old to talk all these nonsense but don't know still they enjoyed the talk and it didn't stop there, it was ofcourse the bachelor's gossip started then ! They also started discussing about the Oriya and Marwadi thoughts and personalities. Beda started explaining how the Oriya association this time won the trophy for the Ganesh Puja celebration events. Wow Rahul was really surprised and congratulated him. All more than 150 members in that oriya association gave 1000 rupees each as a charity and they didn't collect from the city people like how others typical indians do for any public celebrations blocking the roads and forcing the society people in the city. That was a good initiative for sure. Vijay also acknowledged, they also pegged Rahul to contribute Rs 2000 this time and Rahul couldn't say No !

Topic changed and they started talking about the profession. Rahul appreciated Beda for really working in fields. Vijay also supported Rahul's word he really is Mobile man yarr. He always be here but works remotely in mobile technology as a field manager. Veda said yes man "I am so called field manager right !" He was too right at his remarks, why not when the job is done without being present at the station why to be really present. Rahul asked Beda has he ever thought of being a field manager ? Beda commented "Neither You Nor Bijay with your profession right ?" Every one nodded. World is changing very fast so as the need, so as the environment and so as the aim and our vision. For a moment surely every ones thought might have travelled back and Rahul also thought how he changed his track from being a scientist to a typical easy money making software engineer. So as Bijay commented it is for sure that what we do now is earning us good but still not sufficient. Rahul asked why ? what do you think? Are you not satisfied ? Are you not satisfied Beda ? No not even me ? Looking at the stray dog they started laughing this is the only creature we see is happiest among all and they had a blast of laugh. Beda told he is married, he has now two kids he has more burden than the others so he has to find some alternatives to earn more.

So Rahul asked is that made every one of us to choose a profession where we are not good at but doing it just for the sake of living and have prestige in the society thats all. Every one seemed to be agreeing with him. Yes Look at the marwadi here they are well educated, their son have studied in IITs but they are working in their own cloth store or the hotel or the factory ? Because they know the charm of being the boss of their own business. They know the charm of being the leader. They know how to invest and multiply. They have practical experience in  Financial Education. They Know the real answer of "What do you do ?". Look at that Chayee Walla he has A Crore Villa and surely if we will be sticking in our profession we can't build it. Why do we think so much when we have a solution ? Solution what ? Every one speak solution, who applies it ? Beda said I applied it, I am failing every time ! Rahul said even he tried it. "What do you do?" what does it mean Beda and Bijay both asked to Rahul.

Rahul said I mean when a person ask What do you do ? may be a stranger who might ask this question then what we answer. We choose to tell our profession right ? What makes the difference when a businessman speaks though he has studies from IIT. Conclusion is simple the professional is always needy and poor than the businessman. Then why all these studies its all waste I or You could have done the business from the very beginning ? True but why then why the marwadi still chose to teach his son in IIT ? Education is important, we should be able to use our education in our business, yes we dont have prio experience in business neither our family but we can start here with for our future generation. Now most of earning goes in tax where as businessman has lot of alternatives to utilise the money to save tax and most of his daily needs are covered by not his earnings but the business does it for them. What I mean here "We work for money but a businessman Money works for him". Its every professional who works for money and we spend most of our money in liabilities. Bijay told of course we shouldn't love our profession. Its just fulfill our basic needs and our standard of living and we spend all of this shit. We can't definitely go back and open chayye shop now it hurts not us but the society. Why society yarr. Wont they come and have a hot cup of tea in the chilled winter ? Rahul added. Open a chayee store but use your lawship in the chayee shop. When I open a Chayye shop I would use my software skills in it. Add the skills or the talent we earn in our career or profession make it little masaledar a little different than the old chaayewalla. It will click or flick right ? There is a risk ofcourse there is risk but what if it clicks ? Why to take risk man !! Ohh God the Cab stops right at the same place and the crowd had to break !

Anyway while coming back to home Rahul was murmurring more on the same topic why he is choosing to start apparel business though he knew that farming would be more profitable in long run.. Animal Farming or  Vegitable farming ? May be both but he has not yet concluded ! but surely he would have started the realestate if he would have some more money. Earning from his profession is definitely a short term solution for his long term Goals. So he would still continue his profession but sooner he would stop loving his profession and he reached home.